January 17, 2014

What's It Like to Be Collared?

I wore one once, and in my nativity it was I who bought it for my then Dom, thinking because it was what I wanted that He would appreciate my initiative in choosing this myself. When we parted ways, I gave it to Him, thinking it was His property. As I said I was new and with someone who thought he was a Dominant. Many years later, it is clear He never was.

Years have come and gone, as has life, but I have always wondered what it would be like to be collared. What's it like to have a ceremony? What's it like to look in the mirror and see that I am someone's property?

I imagine my self esteem would increase because there isn't just my own sense of self worth that rises, but the pride my Dom/Sir/Master would have in me.

I am in a open relationship and My Sir is my Primary I am not collared.


For me to be collared I've imaged feeling a sense of pride, not just in who I am as a person, but pride in that I am chosen to represent a piece of our unity together.


December 14, 2013

Kink and Mental Health

I was perv'n around and stumbled upon Fetlife's event. They are having a Month Long Kink Holiday Giveaway Kink Holiday Giveaway. If you are a member of Fetlife you can read the post and join. I did, its interesting to read all the suggestions and questions. Follow the links and you can join more month long contest.

          " To show our appreciation to our kink-tastic members and to continue on with our gift of giving mode that we kick started with our post here: A reminder to our Lifetime Supporters...the gift of giving, we will be giving away one free six month membership per day for the entire month of December! :-) "

excerpt from Kink Holiday Giveaway - Fetlife. 

I thought on my question and decided what it would be.

  • Do you feel there is a connection between being socially accepted in a lifestyle looked down upon and mental health and stigma?
What's your question? Share here!! I look forward to seeing you on Fetlife! Be sure to come and hit me up and send me an email, I like making new kinky friends :).


December 12, 2013

What kind of S-type are you?

So I was perving my favorite kink board and saw this test on the wall. Thought I would take it for a spin and here's my result :)

You clock in as a classic submissive. You like giving over to your Dominant’s will, not just submitting to a Top’s sensation. You have a few boundaries and limits to what you will or won’t do, but you are eager to do what it takes to please and pleasure the one to whom you submit. You may love pain, or love to give service, or adore sex, but your desire for giving over is what drives you the strongest.

For a deeper dive into all of your submissive tendencies, join the Submissive Playground course in January 2014 for four weeks of creative, sexy explorations.

Learn more at www.submissiveplayground.com

I wonder if any of my previous play partners would agree? Master, do you?

Take the test and post your results! I'd love to see how many of you are Slave or Submissive and do you agree with that result?

December 10, 2013

2 year Sex-er-versary

Merry Ho'ness everyone!!

How have you all been? I know I've not written since September. The reason is I've been dealing with some mental health issues. I struggle with social anxiety, depression, bipolar and borderline personality disorder.

It has taken its toll on my kink life and poly relationships.

I know I've let many of you down, and I suspect you all have forgotten about me. I do apologize for that. I have been working on myself, seeing the right medical people, doing the protocols advised. Master and I are strong, he is my force and guidance.

Merry Kink'ness!! 




September 25, 2013

How I See My Master

I know it has been a long time, (a few months) since I have written. There have been a variety of reasons, but now that things are starting to return to better paths, I thought I would do an update. 

I wrote this recently and am going to share it here:

Over two and half years ago you can into my life, literally by a drive to an event that cancelled suddenly. Never had I felt so comfortable as we chatted while you drove to and from the event. Your ease to make me laugh, your sexy voice was all I had known, other than a profile picture of sexy man's chest.

During our conversations, not once did I ever see a photo of you til that evening you decided to drive back from the cancelled event and we spoke of meeting. You graciously went to Tim Hortons and picked up my steeped tea and you your triple triple. When you returned, you came to my home (something I seldom, if ever allowed anyone to come to) that was the very first time I had ever seen your face, the entire person, no longer just a voice and torso. Talk about a handsome and sexy man!

As our days and weeks went by, we realized we are joined. We both just knew that we are meant to be together.

I have no words to describe the passion you bring out in me. When we have done a scene, you have always made sure to have everything I need for when I return from sub drop. Your arms surrounding me, making me feel safe, always. Even so much as to make sure the next day, how I was and if I needed anything.
I smile with appreciation when I have seen you do a scene with another submissive. To see your floggers dance across the flesh, rhythm flowing to music that pulsates through your veins.

In our day to day life, you have always had my best interests. Through surgery, recovery and physical pain, you never wavered. My mental health has been a challenge, yet with your support and communication, you have shown me that not all run away. You have given me acceptance and returning of trust, something I thought I had long since lost.

You understand me, you encourage me and challenge me.

I am proud to be your submissive and love you with all that I am.


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